Several years ago, when my wife was just my fiancée, we were trying to figure out which year we should get married. She wanted to plan for 2018, but I wanted to wait an additional year to “get my life together.” She settled it once and for all: “You won’t have your life together in a year.” She was correct, and I still haven’t gotten my life together after nearly four years. The main point of her reality-checking statement was that she wanted to marry me, and that wasn’t contingent on me becoming some other version of myself that I thought I could become in a year. I didn’t have to change.
So, brothers, in whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with God.1 Corinthians 7:24, ESV
Paul writes in 1 Corinthians about the desire some may have to change themselves. The reality is that we can live for God from exactly where we are. We are placed in a specific place and time for a reason, and God wants us for who we are now. He wants us, and that isn’t contingent on us becoming some other version of ourselves. He will shape us into the people we need to be, but after accepting the salvation found in Jesus and choosing to live for Him, there is no change we need to make.